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    Family meals matter

    Teaching children healthy eating habits requires setting a good example by sharing meals with them, said Irene Chatoor, MD, FAAP, in her session "Food refusal: From picky eating to feeding disorders" at AAP 2016.

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    Chatoor said her research and clinical experience have demonstrated the importance of family dinners. When parents model eating during family meals, children eat more; they become curious about what their parents are eating; and eventually they want to try those foods themselves. However, in a time in which parents feel very pressed for time, they may skip breakfast, inhale lunch at work, and wait until their children are in bed to eat dinner themselves. Children who eat alone—often in front of TVs—can develop terrible eating habits. They may want to eat palatable snack foods and refuse healthier vegetables and fruits, or refuse to sit at the table for a meal.

    Between 20% and 50% of mothers report that their child is a picky eater. Although the concept remains poorly defined, the spectrum of picky eating ranges from refusing to eat a few foods to having strong adverse reactions to certain foods. Some parents worry needlessly when their child refuses to eat certain foods. Children do not have to eat every single vegetable or every fruit or meat.

    However, some children have strong sensory reactions to certain foods, marked by grimacing, gagging, or spitting out foods, and then they become fearful to eat those foods again.1 Forcing such children to eat the offending items intensifies their fear, which children may generalize to other foods and end up with a very limited diet. These children are not being stubborn or willful. Research indicates that some children may have many more taste buds than average, so these "super tasters" experience certain foods much more intensely than average. These children need help becoming desensitized to the strong taste or texture of the aversive foods. Besides the nutritional impact, children's avoidance of entire food groups also can limit them socially—complicating birthday parties, sleepovers, traveling, or camping.

    It is important for pediatricians to reassure the parent of a child who has a limited but adequate diet, and to help families with children who have strong sensory food aversions overcome their aversions.

    Chatoor also has described another group of so-called picky eaters who have a small appetite and would rather play and talk than eat. These children become underweight, and their food refusal generates intense anxiety in their parents. She described this feeding disorder as infantile anorexia because it starts in the first 3 years of life and is different from anorexia nervosa, which usually begins during adolescence and is triggered by the fear of being or becoming fat.1,2 In a study, two-thirds of these children outgrew their eating disorder and established a healthy weight by age 12 years.1,3 Parents of children who continued to eat poorly had few family dinners. These children grazed throughout the day, rarely eating enough to support healthy growth and development.

    Her plea to pediatricians is that they help parents understand the importance of sitting and eating together with their children. Family dinners should be enjoyable. Parents often call restoring that activity the best result of bringing their children for treatment.


    1. Chatoor I. Diagnosis and Treatment of Feeding Disorders in Infants, Toddlers, and Young Children. Washington, DC: Zero to Three: National Center for Infants, Toddlers, and Families; 2009.

    2. Kerzner B, Milano K, MacLean WC Jr, Berall G, Stuart S, Chatoor I. A practical approach to classifying and managing feeding difficulties. Pediatrics. 2015;135(2):344-353.

    3. Chatoor I. When Your Child Won’t Eat or Eats Too Much: A Parents’ Guide for the Prevention and Treatment of Feeding Problems in Young Children. Bloomington, IN; iUniverse; 2012.

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    John Jesitus
    John Jesitus is a medical writer based in Westminster, CO.


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